I know I'm at my best when I do a few key things consistently.
All the time.
No matter what.
Even if I'm super tired.
Even if I want to stay in bed and watch Real Housewives.
Even when I'm supposed to meditate and my brain is like, "Let's check Instagram stories one more time. I wanna see another puppy video!"
I LOVE being spontaneous - waking up and seeing where the day takes me.
But if I sprinkle in a little more structure to my life with certain "must do" tasks - I'm a much more zen person.
So in an effort to find the middle path, I've committed to doing a few things consistently.
Even if I'd rather mindlessly scour the internet for the perfect highlighter for cheekbones. Side note - please send recs my way - I always end up looking like I have glitter on my face.
Confession: If I had a list of 20 things I tried to do every day, I'd do absolutely zero of said things because - overwhelm. And I'd likely just shut down and eat ice cream all day. Just kidding.
So I've decided on a small but mighty list of THREE.
My current do-all-the-time, even if I don't really *feel* like it list includes.....dun, dun, dunnnnn:
Twice a day. I'll simply sit and breathe for 20 minutes. I also like using Headspace.
// Working Out:
I love the Tracy Anderson Method streaming option since I can do it from home. Or simply walking outside to a good playlist.
// Positive Affirmations
I adore Louise Hay. I'll listen to her affirmations when I'm getting ready in the morning or throughout the day.
I try to do these three things every day. And I try to do them without surveying my brain to see if they're a "good idea" in the moment.
Why? Because my brain can come up with SO many reasons why exercising isn't a good idea!
I have to clean.
I need to check email (again).
My dog looked at me so now I have to pet him for 45 minutes or he'll be sad. And I don't want to make my dog sad.
I try to ACT and then ask questions later.
Am I consistent 100% of the time every single day? Absolutely not! How boring would that be! ;) But, I try not to beat myself up about not being a perfect human being. What's the good in that?
It's all about progress, not perfection.
And when I take a step back, I see the cumulative effects of my consistency.
I'm more balanced, less stressed and more present in my life and relationships. And over time it motivates me to stick with things longer.
While consistently doing the same things over and over again can feel like the ultimate snooze fest, I've discovered that it actually helps me feel anchored and enjoy my life.
The more relaxed and balanced I feel, the more I'm free to soak up the moment.
And that's some consistency I can believe in :)
What's the stuff you TRY to do every day, even if you don't, you know, do it EVERY single day? Drink lots of water? Baths? Yoga? Running? Snuggles with your pet? Spin class? What helps you feel relaxed and grounded?
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From my heart to yours,
Devon McLeod, LCSW