Want To Feel Courageous?

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I watched Brene Brown's Netflix special last weekend on a rainy Saturday afternoon...

And it's all I want to talk about. 

Brene is a Ph.D and researcher on shame and vulnerability. Her first Ted Talk went viral and has been downloaded like 39 million times. 

I also have to say that I feel a special bond with her because she's a social worker like me :) 

That being said, a lot of people feel they have a special bond with her no matter what their profession.

She has that kind of *real* and disarming personality that makes you want to open up your heart right away. 

During Brene Brown's Netflix special she's "simply" talking on stage.

But, it's much more than talking.

It's a powerful transmission of information.

She gets real and personal on the subjects of shame, vulnerability and courage. 

I cried throughout certain parts. I don't want to spoil it for you. That would be annoying :)

But, I walked away feeling a little more courageous. Courageous about what? Being vulnerable and real in my own life.

My biggest takeaway from the special: Courage comes from vulnerability. 

I had a hard time with this at first. 

Here's a peek inside my brain when she says stuff like this:

What do you mean I need to be vulnerable in order to feel courageous? 

For me, this can be a toughie.

I’d rather skip the feelings of:

"Ugh, I don’t want to do this," and all the other uncomfortable emotions that come with stepping out of my comfort zone. 

I’d much rather envision myself crossing the finish line with a gold medal in hand. 

The image of brave warriors heading into battle also pops into my mind.

Don't they just need straight up courage and lots of cortisol? 

But, she talks about how there's no living a brave life without opening up your heart first. 

Even if that means you're opening yourself up to potential "failure." 

Even if that means not getting the outcome you want. 

Ugh, the perfectionist in me (I'm working on it) sometimes wants to do risky stuff, but only if there's a guaranteed outcome of A++ on my test. 

I also related to her talk when it comes to pulling back the layers and showing people my flaws and imperfections.

That stuff can be hard. Sometimes it feels scary, "What will they think of me? Am I still lovable?" 
 
Brene breaks down why this isn't the way to live.

She talks about how you can open up your heart, connect more with others and show up for yourself when you put down your armor. 

Here's one of my favorite quotes from her: 

"Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen." - Brene Brown 

I highly recommend watching her Netflix special, especially if you've ever struggled with perfectionism (raising my hand here). 

Click here to watch her special on Netflix. 

Click here to watch her viral talk on Youtube. 

She tells lots of stories, makes you laugh and reminds you we're all in thistogether :) 

Remember, if you're taking a risk and doing something that makes you feel vulnerable or scared -- you're on the way to a courageous life. 

You don't have to do things perfectly, you just have to show up one day at a time :) 

Have a beautiful week!

From my heart to yours, 

Devon McLeod, LCSW
Holistic Psychotherapist
www.devonmcleod.com


PS Have you watched or read any of Brene Brown's work? What do you think? Comment and let me know! I love hearing from you! :)