Hi! I hope you had a wonderful holiday season!
I just got back to the East Coast after some time in California and Texas.
Side note - Both CA and TX are ginormous and you can drive for 6 hours and still be deep in the heart of Texas haha.
My holiday was filled with love, laughter, sarcastic comments from my brother, too much chocolate, driving and lots of Mexican food.
Did my holiday go according to plan 100% of the time?
Nope! How boring would that be?
That's the beauty of life right?
You might have your expectations and then there's reality. And it's all about going with the flow and seeing the beauty in it all.
I just wanted to throw the idea out there of loving wherever you are. Right now. In this moment.
I know this time of year can be all about New Year, New You, but sometimes I get overwhelmed.
Maybe it's all the extra pressure this time of year regarding self-improvement?
And you might have goals for yourself: more Soul Cycle classes, reading more books, spending quality time with friends - and that's awesome.
I'm ALLL about goals and making positive changes for yourself. The new year can be a fresh time to set intentions and get clear on what you want to experience.
But you can make these changes while still recognizing how far you've already come and giving a big dose of compassion to YOU.
You can still have big goals. You can still have big dreams. You can also love yourself BIG time along the way.
Being nice to yourself with resolutions/goals looks something like this:
"I know I want to work-out more in 2019 and I'm going to love and accept myself where I am now, too"
"I want to be more patient, but I'll have compassion for the part of me that's trying my best while I'm on my way."
The icing on the cake is you'll make more strides and more gains when you come from a place of compassion and love for yourself.
So if you need the reminder, you're doing beautifully wherever you are. Take a moment to appreciate how far you've come.
"You, yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Sharon Salzberg
Be kind to yourself. Show up with love.
Notice the shift in your body and how it feels to be in acceptance of yourself as you move forward.
It's so much better when you're nicer to yourself, right?!
Wishing you all the best as you move on to the awesome things you'll do in 2019...with a whole lot of love.
From my heart to yours,
Devon McLeod, LCSW
PS In honor of being nice to yourself wherever you are, read this blog I wrote about that time I totally messed something up. Remember if you're ever made a mistake or been less than perfect - you're never alone!
Happy New Year! xoxo