I've never been much into New Year's Resolutions, but one thing I do know?
I'm incredibly devoted to serving YOU this year.
I've been listening closely, all year round, and the #1 struggle you've shared with me is feeling like you have to do EVERYTHING in your life perfectly.
Whether it's reading self-help books, meditation, carving out time for group fitness classes, dating, relationships or even just relaxing - you want to do things and do them well.
I totally hear you (and I get it).
For many years, I struggled with feeling like I, too, should do everything without mistakes (how boring!) and that I wasn't successful if I didn't have my relationships, career, exercise routine and relaxation strategies figured out to a tee (eek! I even feel stressed writing that).
You see, I get the struggle because I ran that program for YEARS. Not only does it not *work* but you run the risk of not enjoying the natural flow of your life.
That's why I'm declaring this year to be:
The Year of Bidding Adieu to Perfectionism.
That's right. I'm on a one-woman mission to have you cut yourself some slack and accept yourself exactly as you are.
"But, Devon, I'm all about achieving, growing, learning and striving. I want to empower myself to be more, do more and have the relationships and life I want."
I'm not asking you to settle. I'm asking you to relax into the idea that you are enough.
Less I need to rush around and get everything done and more I'm going to focus on joy and compassion in EVERYTHING I do.
Because when you're relaxed and having a blast, you'll actually get more done, get it done well, and your relationships will flourish.
Hows that for challenging your inner Perfectionist?
Here's some of the stuff you can expect from me this year:
- Blog posts a couple times a month delivered directly to your inbox
- Phone/skype sessions for flower essence sessions if you're not in the NYC area (or you live in NYC and don't want to leave your apartment).
- Videos where I share my personal struggles with perfectionism and how I work to a) accept my perfectionistic knee-jerk reaction and b) stop myself before I end up in a stressed-out ball on the floor.
And in the meantime, what's one thing you can do TODAY to drop some perfectionism?
Perhaps letting yourself off the hook for not getting *everything* done on your to-do list? Watching your inner dialogue so you're NOT beating yourself up after skipping the gym? Let's be nicer to ourselves starting now.
Here's to a happy New Year!
From my heart to yours,
Devon McLeod, LCSW
P.s. Sign up below to receive my FREE guided meditation that focuses on letting go of this "I have to do everything right" energy. I recorded it on a day where I needed to take my own advice on being okay with not doing things perfectly ;) I hope you enjoy!