I’m a Taurus. If you follow astrology that means I’m a grounded earth sign who likes things settled, done and consistent - all the time.
Lucky for me, life throws curve balls in the way of changing apartments, switching jobs, ending relationships and friends moving away.
We can resist change, fight through every moment and complain along the way.
The other option is to wise up, pay attention and grow.
Here are 4 tips for getting the most out of life when something ends, something begins or when you have a hard time letting go:
If you’re dwelling on how great your relationship was or how awesome your old boss used to be, take a mental snapshot of the image when you walk down memory lane.
Tears? You probably need to shed them. Laughter and a smile? Let those happen, too.
Releasing emotion creates space for something new. Journal, talk to a friend or let out a good cry. Do what you need to do to honor where you’re going and where you’ve been.
Last year I moved apartments and I remember wanting everything done and decorated NOW. I was going crazy with all the boxes and I couldn’t wait for the future when things would be perfect and I could breathe.
Looking back, I’m more than a little wistful. When things are coming together sure they’re imperfect, but the imperfection provides beautiful anticipation and uncertainty, which makes us feel alive.
Soak up the moments, even if they’re messy.
Take inventory of all the things you’ve let go of, finished, said good-bye to and started again. Write down the times you changed jobs, moved across the country, broke up with your boyfriend or took on something new. You’re stronger than you think. Be a historian of all the ways you succeeded even when you had your doubts.
“It is what it is.”
I hate when people say that, probably because I have a hard time accepting situations I don’t want to be in. I fight and twist and goddammit, can you just listen to me vent my important feelings about this one more time?!
When I’m done throwing an energetic tantrum I’m usually so exhausted that I can see that the situation is going to stay the same, regardless of my reaction.
Vent, cry, but get on the other side of acceptance.
All situations are temporary, including the one you’re in.
The good news is that life, through all its transitions, changes, endings and beginnings, is teaching us everything we need in the moment.
You’re right where you're supposed to be.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve gotten out of a life change? Feel free to write in the comments below and share with someone going through a transition of their own.